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Hands up those of you who’s been involved in this kind of relationship. The motion picture, which was recently released as part of Valentine’s Day theme, divulges about a male and female friendship that’s based on purely on physical connection. Yes, they are having fun for as long as they can – lots of passionate sex, instant rushes, intensity, crazy surprises.. you name it. Sex with no strings attached is hell lots of FUN.

However, things change once one party decided they want more other than just wild romps in the bed. Lucky for the couple, the movie ended with a happy solution. Ahh… Hollywood movies are such a cliche,

Regrettably, not all FWB situaton ends with a happy ending.. especially in this day and age. Only a few made it to exclusive relationships, the rest just go pear-shaped. I’m a firm believer that the FWB situations only work for guys. I mean.. what benefit does it bring for girls? Women are not designed to handle emotions as good as men, particularly on the bonding-effect. Experts believe that the more often a girl is sleeping with a guy who gives her pleasure, the more she will get attached to her sex partner(s).

Sometimes, girls agree to sleep with a guy with no strings attached – merely hoping that there’s an opportunity to be boyfriend and girlfriend. Guys could smell this yearning scent and would, in turn, use the girl to his advantage. Try not to let yourself feeling this way. Ashton Kutcher is the ‘typical girl’ in this movie and good on him for taking the plunge trying to seal the deal.

Portman also couldn’t deny herself when she started feeling something. Gosh, isn’t Portman so well at faking it? No.. I’m not talking about her quick on-screen orgasm, but how she dealt with her inner feelings. Although the next few weeks were filled with dramas and uncertainties, in the end they make it to a happy life.

So this leads me to the next question.. is FWB healthy for both men and women? There’s no definite answer on that one. My reponse is it’s only healthy if both parties realize that they’re not up for anything serious (ie relationship). Plus, in order for that to happen, they have to observe these golden rules:

• Be open and honest with each other. If one party sleeps with another person, they have to tell the other person what’s going on.
• Set ground rules – no jealousy, no snooping on each other’s lives, no controlling, no suddenly rocking up at their work place.
• Play it safe. Always use condoms to prevent STIs and unwanted pregnancies. It wouldn’t be a fun in the sack anymore if the girl falls pregnant (think Rachel and Ross in Friends).
• Manage your life well – know where you stand, DO keep your options open, control your emotions.
• Build your emotions wall high, real high. Do not feel used/rejected if your FWB did not reply or answer your text. They have other ‘friends’ too, just letting you know…
• Do not bring your FWB to family functions or events that people might think you’re a couple. Trust me – you don’t want to attract awkward questions to your current situation.
• Do not build expectations. This is when you start questioning: is he/she going to stick with me for (this) period of time? Are we going to be a real couple? Answer: You are only having great sex together. Period.
• Do not do this at all if you’re feeling lonely and need to past the time. You won’t be enjoying as much benefits, plus there’s a higher chance you’ll be clingy to the other person. Euwww…

Moreover – is there an expiry date on FWB situations? Again, the decision is on your own hand. At the end of the day we all want someone we can come home to, share our daily stories, cook dinner, gives us a foot massage after a tiring day. If you aren’t getting your needs fulfilled (ie the BENEFITS) – why stay in an unconfirmed relationship?

So, the next time you’re trapped into this kind of relationship ask yourself honestly: what kind of benefit do I get in this relationship? How long can I put up with it before getting myself hurt? What do I really want?

Bitch (bic̸h) noun

A term for the female of a canine species in general. It is also frequently used as a term for a malicious, spiteful, domineering, intrusive, or unpleasant person, especially a woman.

Best Friends for life.. That would be the first thing on every woman’s mind when they see Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte, and Miranda on the big screen. Yep the second blockbuster movie is out this month and the four girls are still giggling continuously. Sex and the City show has run for more than 10 years and we’ve seen the girls stick through thick and thin throughout the period. Men, sex, shoes, babies, and pills conversations are always the hot topics. Yet in real life, Kim Catrall (Samanta) is constantly bickering with SJP (Carrie). It’s all non-sense, it does not happen in today’s society. Which make me thinking.. does long term friendship exist in modern female world?

Women are no different than men in terms of competition. They compete about everything from partner, career, body-wise, looks, even social and sex life. Who’s got the hottest body, who snatches the sexiest man, who owns an attractive face, who has the most satisfying job, or who experienced the big ‘OMFG’ in a week.

In most cases, there are more and more bitchiness within female friendships. When we were little, women are taught to be loyal to their girlfriends (and husbands). They braid each other’s hair then pulling each other as they got older. They first keep your secrets but told everyone how many men you slept with later on. They bring you flowers when you broke up with your first boyfriend, only to realize they hook up with your ex sometime in the future.

As you grow older, you begin to sort out which ones are toxic or beneficial friends. Admit it – you’re hot, fabolous, successful, wanted by men, amazing in bed, not forgetting you have a wonderful personality. Chances are, other (insecure) ladies will be green of envy of your qualities. Those women will always try to bring you down, imitate your personality, talk behind your back, or even try to steal your man.

Screening for a good female pal who won’t be jealous of you and be your true BFF seems totally challenging. Acquiring friends is easy, but maintaining sweet girlfriendship is hard. More often than not, females don’t tell other females what they don’t like about them. They prefer to ‘discuss’ about it with another person..behind their back of course!

Women should be trained on how to communicate openly with their female pals. Like the girls on SATC, they can just blurt out almost about everything whenever they catch up for coffee or dinners. Whether it’s “I don’t like you tagging me on all my Facebook photos” or “I think your ass looks saggy” – just throw them on the table. No backstabbing, no badmouthing, no gossiping about your friend. If you have something not nice to say about your gal pal, say it to them upfront. Bitching about them is so 2008. What you want is a healthy relationship with your girlfriends.

A good girlfriend is the one who genuinely support you, cares for you, be your shoulder to cry and does not laugh at your misfortune. Likewise if your girlfriend does not appear to have those qualities, you have a choice.. keep your friends close, keep your bitches closer.