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This is one article that I have written in order for men to know what turns a woman off and how to avoid that.

1. Making lame jokes ESPECIALLY when she is being serious

I’ve had a friend who went out with this guy on a date. She asked him casually “So do you like dogs?” and he quickly replied by saying “Oh yes they are very tasty”. Clearly it was a joke, but a real bad one especially my friend is such a dog lover. I don’t recall them going on another date after that one. If a woman is having a serious talk with you, don’t start making jokes after jokes just in an attempt to escape the serious talk. It wouldn’t work, and it surely turns a woman off.

2. Always wanting to have the last say or opinions on things

Some women want to always have the last say on things, but when men do this, it’s one of the fastest way to turn a woman off. Not only the argument will then continue, you are also putting your position unfavourably in front of the woman’s eyes. This is especially true if the opinion you are putting on the table is irrelevant to the argument you are having.

3. Challenging or laughing at a woman’s value or tradition

I remember I dated a guy who laughed as soon as I told him I was still living with my parents. He didn’t score a second date with me. If there are cultural or traditional difference between you and the woman you are dating, accept what her values are rather than challenge them especially if you still want to see her. And if you really can’t accept her values then move on.

4. Constantly talking about hot women on TV

Women are normally realistic and we know those models and actresses on TV are just hot (Hey, some of us get attracted to them too). But the last thing woman wants is for you to start commenting on how hot Megan Fox is whenever she comes up on TV.

5. Being a natural cheapskate

When out on a first few dates with a woman, foot the bill. She doesn’t expect you to pay every single things that you do and in the long run she knows that she’ll foot some of the bills too. But splitting the bill down to service charge and tip on your first date is just a fast way to turn a woman off.

6. If a woman says no, it means “NO”

One instant way to turn a woman off is being persistence to simply get your way physically or verbally. If you keep on touching her where it’s inappropriate in public when she clearly says no to it, it won’t do you any favour. If your date wants you to stop touching her that is what you have to do. If she doesn’t want to do something, don’t try to sneak in words to convince her that she should.

7. Too clingy and insecure

Especially if you are jealous that she is spending time with her best GIRL friend. Let her keep her friends and get into the idea that a couple does not literally mean you guys are literally being glued to each other. Also, don’t worry if she does have male friends, because if she is being real and trustworthy, you have nothing to worry about. If she is flaky and a cheater though, you don’t want to be with her in the first place.

8. Doesn’t want to listen to her opinion

If a woman starts to say something that may involve asking you for your serious opinions – even on things you don’t like, don’t dismiss it by just saying to her “Stop nagging” or “Let’s not talk about that” or something along that line. Yes she may stop talking about it, but then she’ll instead think about how inconsiderate you are and how she should plan her escape…from you.

Sometimes you worry so much about the current guy you are seeing that you forget to ask yourself the question “Are you ready for a relationship?” rather than wondering whether or not HE is ready. Maybe your dating life is ruled by fear of being hurt one way or another, fear of wasting your feelings and emotions on the wrong guy, fear of going through heartbreak once more…

Sadly, those fears people are inclined to feel when a relationship starts to get good would be able to kill the so-called honeymoon period in a flash. You wonder where all those honeymoon period have gone, you wonder if the person you are with is the right one. But ask yourself this: Are you ready for relationship?

1. First of all, you are ready for a relationship if you can keep your fear aside.

Fear is a big thing that can cloud your mind and judgement that even simple steps can look complicated and scary. You gotta deal with this fear and insecurity in a nice effective way. Especially in the early stages of relationship, people (mostly women) need to be reminded again and again that small insecurity feeling is normal. But if you let it take its toll around your life then you have basically invited it to wreck your about-to-grow relationship to pieces…So deal with it in order for you to have the lasting love and genuine intimacy.

Remember, most fear are just that: fear. You may fear that you don’t deserve love, your relationship may die, you may end up heartbroken, etc. However, know that if you have big fear, you will not be able to get close to someone and therefore you are not so ready for a longlasting genuine relationship. So are you ready for relationship? then you should be ready to throw those fear away – or at least put it at bay in the beginning of a new thing.

2. Case of the Ex.

I use to really hate talking about exes. I use to think they are the most annoying creatures that can interfere with any relationship at any stage. But thankfully, I am not like that anymore. If you still somehow think you may get back with your ex or you might want him as a ‘back up’ in case your current relationship doesn’t work out, ask yourself the question “Are you ready for relationship?”, because most likely the answer is a resounding NO.

3. You still feel you are ‘missing out’ or wanting to know your ‘options’.

When you are ready for a relationship you are ready to commit to one person without the subconscious thinking that a newer model and make of your supposedly dream guy will come out anytime soon. If all you think about involves what qualities of other guys that your current one doesn’t have then you maybe are not so ready for a relationship. The grass is not always greener on the other side, and when you still think so, you are still under the illusion that fairy tales such as Cinderella and the likes were all based on true stories.

4. You don’t understand (And never want to) the meaning of the word ‘Compromise’.

Relationship will always involve the word ‘compromise’. You cannot get your way all the time and you have to be ready for a little bit of compromisation. You gotta understand though, the older and the more mature someone is, the more comfortable she is with her way of doing things that ‘compromising’ becomes way harder than it should be. This is why you have to get it down pat that sometimes even Cinderella would have to compromise with her prince on some things (remember that they were based on true stories?)

So…if you are ready for it but it seems like your way of ‘dating’ is the problem, then have a look at this: Dating Men is Easy. All problems simplified