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Do you want to know one simple secret many women have used to instantly look sexier? Of course you do. After all, we all know that men are visual creatures to an extent and unless you’ve got the so-called WOW factor, it’s kind of hard to make them want to know your personality.

Well, I have looked around everywhere but funny enough, many women tend to overlook this simple secret despite the many hints men drop everywhere. Tell me, have you ever heard (maybe many times you’ve heard) a man say to his friend or to you: “I really love nice eyes” or somewhere along that line? Couple that with many eye make-up products out there, you know the secret. Men love sexy eyes.

Now the question is, how can you make your eyes look sexier? What if you’ve got that dull eyes and what if you are not so gifted? Here is the good news, any woman can make her eyes look instantly sexy by doing the following:

1. Pay attention to the eyelash

Longer, thicker eyelash will make you instantly sexier. I am sure you’ve heard this before from some mascara advertising, but you might not have been too convinced. Of course, this may mean getting up in the morning earlier before you go to work to put on sexy mascara as well as taking longer time to wash and remove it in the end of the day, but it’s worth it. Though, some women go with the option semi-permanent eyelash extension as well as the DIY glued-on fake eyelashes.

2. Plug your eyebrows

No matter how lazy you are and how trimmed your real natural eyebrows are, you really need to plug and shape them. This will surely make your eyes look sexier in a heartbeat. I normally leave this to the professional, but if you’re confident you can do it yourself, then by all means do it!

3. Get rid of the eye bags

I use to photo-shop models for magazine covers, and the first thing I did was to get rid of the eye bags. That would instantly (and I mean, instantly) make you look sexier. Though, I understand getting rid of the eye bags is not so easy. So do the following: for short term, apply nice foundation a shade lighter than your face color. For long term, go for the facials, eye creams, or the plain cucumber.

4. Top secret: Learn the bedroom eyes technique

If you wear contact lenses, try to go for the lenses that will make your eyes look bigger and sparkly. If you don’t, learn this technique. Basically, focus your eyes on the part on the other person’s face that look most attractive to you, this will make your pupil go larger and hence look sexier. Also, remember when I mentioned about getting longer eyelash earlier? Well, the longer your eyelash are, the harder it is for the eyes to receive light. Therefore, your pupil will naturally get bigger in order to adapt to it. So there you go, bedroom eyes secret can be easily done.

Trust me that once you learn this eyes technique you will look instantly sexier. Your man will not even know what has hit him and will say something along the lines of “Something’s different in you, so sexy, but I don’t know what.” You’ll probably hear the word “hot” associated with you more often and that my friend, is a super confidence booster.

This is one article I wrote that has a little to do with the actual dating, but a lot to do with the foundation of dating. I have been asked by a few people “How to forget someone you still really like”, most of the time the question relates to the ex whom they still have a clear picture of in their mind, or the person who they’ve started dating (or are dating) who pretty much has just left them for any reason (somebody else, things not working out, and the worst of all: just gone missing without a trace – AWOL).

I also realise that many times when this question is asked, the answer you are hoping for is really beyond the normal “get busy, take time out, let time heals it etc”. Most people who ask this question are feeling some kind of emotional pain rooted somewhere in their heart or mind that they can’t concentrate on any task given to them. Normally this pain happens on the first few hours they ‘get dumped’ or ‘felt like they’ve lost someone’, or whom they finally got the courage to ‘leave’.

Of course, I must tell you that there is no ‘super quick fix’ that will completely take away the hurt right now, despite I always look for one whenever I feel hurt by people close to me (romantic or not). In fact, there is no such thing as the quick ‘how to forget someone you still really like or love’, because it is impossible to forget something that has happened in the past (whether it is a minute ago, weeks or months ago).

But what you can do though, is to get over the painful hurt feeling as quickly as possible so that you can survive the hurt, able to concentrate on your days, and most importantly move on with your life whether you want to get back to dating scene with a more ‘ready’ mind, or just move on with your life without feeling the hurt anymore.

So here are some things that you can do:

1. Accept the fact that you are hurt, and accept that there is no quick fix, that there is a process to forget someone.

Yes this is the easiest thing to do that you have to start accepting that there is nothing you can do to make the hurt go away right this second. Especially, if you feel like you don’t have anyone else to talk to because the person you count on is really the person who hurts you.

2. Do something physical ON YOUR OWN

When I said ‘on your own’, I meant ‘on your own’. There is no need to pretend you can forget things in your mind by talking to others. You need a ‘me time’ right now or in the next 24 hours. Of course, you will feel so bad that you are taking it in for yourself, but trust me it will numb your hurt painful emotion quicker. So do something physical such as jogging while listening to inspirational music, lock yourself in your room and sleep for the next six hours, playing music instrument, singing karaoke as loud as you can, bowling on your own, shooting range (if time and place permits), shooting basketball or just anything physical on your own – you get the idea. (In fact, I knew a lady who did bungee jumping ten times in a row just to forget someone she just broke up with.)

3. Writing a blog or a diary – both online and offline

If reading articles such as this one will take up some of your mind space, writing blog entries or diary entries will actually make it even better. It is one of the most effective and quickest method on how to forget someone, or forget the hurt you get from that someone. Write exactly how you feel, write about how you survive this whole thing. Before you know it, your strong urge earlier of wanting to call that person right at that moment will slowly subside. You will soon feel calmer and able to function a little bit more.

4. Beyond this, time will heal

Yes, it’s time for me to mention that the best thing on how to forget someone you like is still to give it time. However, it helps if you stop focusing on contacting them in the meantime. In fact, try to minimise contact (no contact is even better) so that you can move on with your life quicker.

Also, I came across this information on the web the other day, How to Forget Your Ex in just 24 Hours, VERY interesting. Check it out for yourself!

In fact, reading it alone helped me go through the first few crucial hours of trying to move on. Get How to Forget Your Ex in just 24 Hours and read it as soon as you can.

P.S. I also recommend the book “It’s called a break-up because it’s broken” by Greg Behrendt – he’s my favourite author so far.