Archive for June, 2010
Author: Jennifer A. Vox
Bitch (bic̸h) noun
A term for the female of a canine species in general. It is also frequently used as a term for a malicious, spiteful, domineering, intrusive, or unpleasant person, especially a woman.
Best Friends for life.. That would be the first thing on every woman’s mind when they see Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte, and Miranda on the big screen. Yep the second blockbuster movie is out this month and the four girls are still giggling continuously. Sex and the City show has run for more than 10 years and we’ve seen the girls stick through thick and thin throughout the period. Men, sex, shoes, babies, and pills conversations are always the hot topics. Yet in real life, Kim Catrall (Samanta) is constantly bickering with SJP (Carrie). It’s all non-sense, it does not happen in today’s society. Which make me thinking.. does long term friendship exist in modern female world?
Women are no different than men in terms of competition. They compete about everything from partner, career, body-wise, looks, even social and sex life. Who’s got the hottest body, who snatches the sexiest man, who owns an attractive face, who has the most satisfying job, or who experienced the big ‘OMFG’ in a week.
In most cases, there are more and more bitchiness within female friendships. When we were little, women are taught to be loyal to their girlfriends (and husbands). They braid each other’s hair then pulling each other as they got older. They first keep your secrets but told everyone how many men you slept with later on. They bring you flowers when you broke up with your first boyfriend, only to realize they hook up with your ex sometime in the future.
As you grow older, you begin to sort out which ones are toxic or beneficial friends. Admit it – you’re hot, fabolous, successful, wanted by men, amazing in bed, not forgetting you have a wonderful personality. Chances are, other (insecure) ladies will be green of envy of your qualities. Those women will always try to bring you down, imitate your personality, talk behind your back, or even try to steal your man.
Screening for a good female pal who won’t be jealous of you and be your true BFF seems totally challenging. Acquiring friends is easy, but maintaining sweet girlfriendship is hard. More often than not, females don’t tell other females what they don’t like about them. They prefer to ‘discuss’ about it with another person..behind their back of course!
Women should be trained on how to communicate openly with their female pals. Like the girls on SATC, they can just blurt out almost about everything whenever they catch up for coffee or dinners. Whether it’s “I don’t like you tagging me on all my Facebook photos” or “I think your ass looks saggy” – just throw them on the table. No backstabbing, no badmouthing, no gossiping about your friend. If you have something not nice to say about your gal pal, say it to them upfront. Bitching about them is so 2008. What you want is a healthy relationship with your girlfriends.
A good girlfriend is the one who genuinely support you, cares for you, be your shoulder to cry and does not laugh at your misfortune. Likewise if your girlfriend does not appear to have those qualities, you have a choice.. keep your friends close, keep your bitches closer.
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