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Once upon a time there was a lovely princess stranded on an island. The island, strangely enough, is full of ponds.. and each pond consist of different kind of fish. She doesn’t know any other challenging activities apart from fishing. One by one some exotic fishes got caught in the hook. She hasn’t got a clue of what type of fish they are except they don’t taste as good as they look.

Amazingly, it’s not only fishes that the princess encountered. She’d also dipped her foot into crocodile pond- and yes she did get bitten in the end and left a scar, pond full of water snakes that she got choked until she couldn’t breathe, and pond full of piranha that she wouldn’t even dare to enter.

The last pond she visited was a frog pond. She remembered thinking “hm..frogs are harmless, aren’t they?” So she kissed a couple of frogs despite their wet skin taste. All of a sudden there comes this tadpole with glossy spotty skin, enticing her: “princess, if you kiss me long enough I will turn into prince charming!”

So the princess did as what the frog told her.. desperately hoping it would soon turn into a gorgeous prince. After she had kissed the frog for few months, it filled her brain with fantasies. She hallucinated so much that she got intoxicated and lost her sense. The more she kissed the frog, the more hopes and dreams she had. Somehow along the way she felt that this frog is not good for whatever reason.

Luckily it didn’t took her too long to realize the hopes and dreams were nothing but deception and empty promises. The princess figured out that the frog she’s been kissing is a poisonous one, which will bring her to slow death and pain. She left the cute frog with her last strength and paddled into the sea.

As she swam across the ocean, few dolphins encircled her. She paddled and paddled until there’s a kind fisherman who’ll rescue her and bring her to a safe land.

Moral of the story? In the dating world, you will meet a lot of jerks, manipulative bastards and all those cruel men who are going to break your heart into pieces. You just have to put yourself out there and don’t waste your time on someone who’s unworthy of your affections. Surround yourselves with people who appreciate you. Never give up on love; a prince charming will find you one day…….

Women don’t normally know what to expect on the first date, whether it is online or offline. For this short article I’m going to focus on first date you get from online dating – the date I refer as Date zero (or semi-date).

So you have gone as far as creating a great online profile that portrays who you are physically and a little bit of your personality. You’ve exchanged emails with a guy who looks great in photos, quick witted and you feel like you’d fall in love with this guy before you met him. Is this feeling all possible? or are you infatuated by the idea of meeting someone new that you are not sure about?

Hey at least when you’ve met a guy offline, in a bar or a club somewhere you KNOW what he looks like in person and you probably get a chance to hear his voice, get a little ‘feel’ of what the he is about. But do you know what to expect on the first date – the first time you meet a guy from online dating?

Here they are:

1. Do not expect them to look like their picture

Expect the worst and prepare yourself to be surprised if the person actually look better than the pictures. In my experience (and some other people – both male and female) nearly more than half the population in online dating do not actually look like their picture – and not necessary in a good way. Maybe they do look like their picture in a certain angle, but don’t sum up some kind of imagination in your head of what they look like because trust me, you won’t know.

2. Do not expect this date to turn into relationship

It’s just a date! oh hang on, it’s not even a date yet…it’s the first meeting to test the water whether there is even chemistry there (Hence you don’t want to get into thousands of email banters with that person without actually meeting them in person first). So prepare to go for just a nice dinner or coffee and a nice chat without expecting anything more than that.

3. Expect a little bit of nervousness from both side

Yes, even good looking guys get nervous too. And no matter how confident you are, you probably would get nervous as well. So loosen up and pick a nice place such as a bar on a school night. This allows you to still hear what each other is saying (bars aren’t normally too packed on school nights – at least, where I live), and this also allows you to drink some kind of booze without feeling guilty. Booze will make you look funnier to the other person and it will make both of you relax a little bit.

Further note: Being drunk on dates is ILLEGAL, or it will be one of the fastest way to guarantee NOT to get a second date.

That’s all on what to expect on first dates – from online dating. Remember, don’t be afraid to actually go and try meet some new people.

Also, for a little bit of fun read, a bit of defense in case the lucky guy forgets or doesn’t call you after the first date, read 101 reasons why men don’t call after the first date