Are ‘bitches’ the new ‘girlfriends’ ?

Bitch (bic̸h) noun

A term for the female of a canine species in general. It is also frequently used as a term for a malicious, spiteful, domineering, intrusive, or unpleasant person, especially a woman.

Best Friends for life.. That would be the first thing on every woman’s mind when they see Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte, and Miranda on the big screen. Yep the second blockbuster movie is out this month and the four girls are still giggling continuously. Sex and the City show has run for more than 10 years and we’ve seen the girls stick through thick and thin throughout the period. Men, sex, shoes, babies, and pills conversations are always the hot topics. Yet in real life, Kim Catrall (Samanta) is constantly bickering with SJP (Carrie). It’s all non-sense, it does not happen in today’s society. Which make me thinking.. does long term friendship exist in modern female world?

Women are no different than men in terms of competition. They compete about everything from partner, career, body-wise, looks, even social and sex life. Who’s got the hottest body, who snatches the sexiest man, who owns an attractive face, who has the most satisfying job, or who experienced the big ‘OMFG’ in a week.

In most cases, there are more and more bitchiness within female friendships. When we were little, women are taught to be loyal to their girlfriends (and husbands). They braid each other’s hair then pulling each other as they got older. They first keep your secrets but told everyone how many men you slept with later on. They bring you flowers when you broke up with your first boyfriend, only to realize they hook up with your ex sometime in the future.

As you grow older, you begin to sort out which ones are toxic or beneficial friends. Admit it – you’re hot, fabolous, successful, wanted by men, amazing in bed, not forgetting you have a wonderful personality. Chances are, other (insecure) ladies will be green of envy of your qualities. Those women will always try to bring you down, imitate your personality, talk behind your back, or even try to steal your man.

Screening for a good female pal who won’t be jealous of you and be your true BFF seems totally challenging. Acquiring friends is easy, but maintaining sweet girlfriendship is hard. More often than not, females don’t tell other females what they don’t like about them. They prefer to ‘discuss’ about it with another person..behind their back of course!

Women should be trained on how to communicate openly with their female pals. Like the girls on SATC, they can just blurt out almost about everything whenever they catch up for coffee or dinners. Whether it’s “I don’t like you tagging me on all my Facebook photos” or “I think your ass looks saggy” – just throw them on the table. No backstabbing, no badmouthing, no gossiping about your friend. If you have something not nice to say about your gal pal, say it to them upfront. Bitching about them is so 2008. What you want is a healthy relationship with your girlfriends.

A good girlfriend is the one who genuinely support you, cares for you, be your shoulder to cry and does not laugh at your misfortune. Likewise if your girlfriend does not appear to have those qualities, you have a choice.. keep your friends close, keep your bitches closer.

8 comments

  1. Replykae

    i consider myself a good friend.. i have lots of females i try to be friends with but as soon as i introduce my boyfriends who tend to be high quality males.. theyre far few in between.. actually ive only had two boyfriends and both got snatched by a so-called friend.. i think men have a betty and veronica complex.. it can also be called the madonna/whore complex.. um in these cases my girlfriends both wanted to continue being friends but loyalty and consideration are curcial to friendship.. our bond should ideally protect us from that corruption..i desmiss their guys.. why cant they do that for me..

    i dont think guys leave women cuz they are particularly unhappy
    i think guys have ADD and forget what they have..and think the grass is greener… you cant really stop him.

    i dont imagine friendship lasting unless there is time and space between people..i sad.

    but i live in reality..and i still aspire to be a great friend to anyone in search of a true Blue B:P

    p.s in eastern cultures women endure longer friendships because men are taught not to look into womens eyes..as a sign of respect..maybe we should think about that??

  2. ReplyDECENT GUY

    Hmm.. this story reminds me of my.. can’t exactly say the word “girlfriend”.. well let’s just say “chich” who I used to know and hung out with whenI felt bored (I know it sounds awful).

    When I met her the first time, first impression wasn’t that good looking but we clicked. She was good in bed and all. But I knew She wasn’t the kind of girl I wanna spend the rest of my life with.

    You know why? She was too easy and the worst part was she really thought very high of herself.
    Couldn’t stand her for longer and left her. When i gave a thought about it again, not even worth wastin’ my time on her.

    cherio.
    Decent guy

  3. ReplyDECENT GIRL

    Girls, decent girls don’t compete with their female friends for those.

    Totally agree with X. How you want the others treat you, you should treat the others in the same way first. Don’t be self-centered, or selfish.

    You should see your own problem first, why you only attract “bitch”. Are they really bitch, why you keep losing friends? Why your friends are “insecure” and feel you are threat. You can’t always meet insecure female friends. Have you taken their feeling into consideration when you hang out with their men, and keep them around when you know they are taken. If they are your friends, they would trust you in the first place, there must be some reason for them stop trusting you, it can not always be their problem everytime, honey.

    Or you just think too high of yourself. Apparently we all see you think you are hot, wanted by men, good in bed. But if you are really very nice girl, no other woman can steal your man, you won’t be dumped.

    1. ReplySMART girl

      Totally agree with all of you girls.

      If you’re surrounded by those kind of people and ALL THE GOOD friends not with you anymore… it’s just sad that you still think highly of yourself.

      Those tons of guys who dumped you must have VERY good reasons to do so. I guess, they’re SMART guys =)

  4. Replymetropolitan girl

    geez.. is that all you can think of in life??
    You’re too pathetic..

    Totally Agreed with “X” better pack up your bag and get yourself checked!
    x

  5. ReplyX

    Honey, Bestfriends do exist. It’s just a matter of how you’re finding them and how you treat them. Of course EVERY gals wanna have besties just like in SATC, but honey.. please wake up from your dream! It’s just a movie! they’re not real.

    Remember people always say “need 2hands to clap”? This applies to friendship or any other relationships too. If you want your galfriend to care about you, be there for you when you’re down, and do other nice things to you (without all those competitions you said).. well you have to do the same thing to them too.. not being selfish.

    Sometimes you need to see your own reflection/personality in the mirror before you judge other people.

    Stop being negative and u’ll find your bestfriend.

    sounds like all the girls around you are trying to compete with you.. and it sounds like you have no decent girlfriends all the good ones leave you.. so honey, better quickly pack up your bag and check yourself up =)

  6. ReplyT

    I believe in bestfriend can last foreva. Had a friend before I considered as bestfriend but as much as breaking up with friend sux, it’s great when you find one that stays true to you.

    If you can be the person you want the other person to be, you will find her/him.

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