Turn a Bootycall into a boyfriend – is it even possible?

Ok, it’s that question again. “So…how do I turn my bootycall into a boyfriend?”, wait…am I a bootycall? Oh man, I swear I’ve had this question asked so many times it’s not funny. But before I decided to answer it myself I decided to consult few of my male friends ranging from the stable boyfriend material to the only-good-for-booty-call-boy. Sometimes we women simply want men’s opinion, fair enough. So here we go.

First of all, let me tell you that every man is different. And once we all agree with that, I’d also like to tell you that not every bootycall can be turned into a boyfriend. (Check out: Top ten signs he is just mr right now. This depends heavily on how things got started in the begninning. Basically, if you started the bootycall relationship (nowadays known as ‘FB’) by chatting a man up in a bar (or get chatted up), end up in the sack followed by love session every once in a while, then you are in what we call the classic bootycall relationship. In this situation, turning a bootycall into a boyfriend is unfortunately very unlikely.

But good news is, you can find out what is the chance that it MIGHT happen very easily. All you need to do is stop acting like a bootycall to him, and see if he even entertains the idea that he might want to take you out for real creative dates. Yes, it is way easier to be said than done. So how do we do that?

Well, unless you guys conduct your dates only at each other’s places where you only touch the bedroom, try politely decline an invitation to sleep with him on one of the dates. Better yet, actually ask him out to go on a specific date item i.e. “Babe, want to go see a movie on Thursday night?” or “Hey, are you free for dinner after work tomorrow?” Make it sound quite casual so that it will be more friendly rather than formal. Make sure the timing is not too close to bed time, and no matter how far you live from him, do NOT sleep over at his place.

From that, you can then find out what his reaction is like. I don’t think we need to get into the details on what constitutes as rejection and what happens when he is interested. Because come on, as a rule of thumb, if he seems very interested in going out just to have conversation minus the sex, your chance is way higher on turning this bootycall into a boyfriend. Otherwise, don’t take heart, you will only eventually need one person to spend your life with and you will meet a gazillion other men in the near future. (Yup, that’s a good mindset to have girls.)

A lot of women think that if they do a certain set of things, they may be able to change a guy’s focus from getting laid to getting a relationship. Look, I know it may not sound very fair, but these sort of things are really depending on the guys and how ready they are in terms of relationship. Although some men are in the grey area of not knowing if he’s ready, some other men are quite clear that they don’t want a relationship at that certain stage.

Do not start thinking that a man will get closer to a woman by just having sex with her. Of course, he would get closer to her physically and to an extent, but he is still a stranger emotionally. Men have two different compartments in their head i.e.: sex and relationship. So really, the question shouldn’t be how to turn your bootycall into a boyfriend in the first place. The question should be: “Is he interested to be my boyfriend, or is he not?”

So what is it that you are supposed to do now? Well, you can hold back on the intimacy, and try to go out on real dates with this potential suitor. (You don’t have to hold back EVERY time, but some of the times.) If he doesn’t ask you out on real date, ask him! You heard that right, you can ask a man. But! there is a catch. No more than three times. Basically, if you’ve asked him out three times whether or not he agrees, it is then his job to ask you out or at least reciprocate.

Sounds like a lot of drama? Of course, when a so-called relationship has ‘friends with benefit’ or ‘f**k buddy’ or ‘bootycall’ phrases associated with it, you are up for a drama-filled relationship. Want to know exactly what men want and confidently never have to come up with any of this problem again? I suggest reading this guide: The Woman men adore, and never want to leave – yeah, no more of that turning bootycall into a boyfriend crap.

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