Author: Sally Webb
This is one article I wrote that has a little to do with the actual dating, but a lot to do with the foundation of dating. I have been asked by a few people “How to forget someone you still really like”, most of the time the question relates to the ex whom they still have a clear picture of in their mind, or the person who they’ve started dating (or are dating) who pretty much has just left them for any reason (somebody else, things not working out, and the worst of all: just gone missing without a trace – AWOL).
I also realise that many times when this question is asked, the answer you are hoping for is really beyond the normal “get busy, take time out, let time heals it etc”. Most people who ask this question are feeling some kind of emotional pain rooted somewhere in their heart or mind that they can’t concentrate on any task given to them. Normally this pain happens on the first few hours they ‘get dumped’ or ‘felt like they’ve lost someone’, or whom they finally got the courage to ‘leave’.
Of course, I must tell you that there is no ‘super quick fix’ that will completely take away the hurt right now, despite I always look for one whenever I feel hurt by people close to me (romantic or not). In fact, there is no such thing as the quick ‘how to forget someone you still really like or love’, because it is impossible to forget something that has happened in the past (whether it is a minute ago, weeks or months ago).
But what you can do though, is to get over the painful hurt feeling as quickly as possible so that you can survive the hurt, able to concentrate on your days, and most importantly move on with your life whether you want to get back to dating scene with a more ‘ready’ mind, or just move on with your life without feeling the hurt anymore.
So here are some things that you can do:
1. Accept the fact that you are hurt, and accept that there is no quick fix, that there is a process to forget someone.
Yes this is the easiest thing to do that you have to start accepting that there is nothing you can do to make the hurt go away right this second. Especially, if you feel like you don’t have anyone else to talk to because the person you count on is really the person who hurts you.
2. Do something physical ON YOUR OWN
When I said ‘on your own’, I meant ‘on your own’. There is no need to pretend you can forget things in your mind by talking to others. You need a ‘me time’ right now or in the next 24 hours. Of course, you will feel so bad that you are taking it in for yourself, but trust me it will numb your hurt painful emotion quicker. So do something physical such as jogging while listening to inspirational music, lock yourself in your room and sleep for the next six hours, playing music instrument, singing karaoke as loud as you can, bowling on your own, shooting range (if time and place permits), shooting basketball or just anything physical on your own – you get the idea. (In fact, I knew a lady who did bungee jumping ten times in a row just to forget someone she just broke up with.)
3. Writing a blog or a diary – both online and offline
If reading articles such as this one will take up some of your mind space, writing blog entries or diary entries will actually make it even better. It is one of the most effective and quickest method on how to forget someone, or forget the hurt you get from that someone. Write exactly how you feel, write about how you survive this whole thing. Before you know it, your strong urge earlier of wanting to call that person right at that moment will slowly subside. You will soon feel calmer and able to function a little bit more.
4. Beyond this, time will heal
Yes, it’s time for me to mention that the best thing on how to forget someone you like is still to give it time. However, it helps if you stop focusing on contacting them in the meantime. In fact, try to minimise contact (no contact is even better) so that you can move on with your life quicker.
Also, I came across this information on the web the other day, How to Forget Your Ex in just 24 Hours, VERY interesting. Check it out for yourself!
In fact, reading it alone helped me go through the first few crucial hours of trying to move on. Get How to Forget Your Ex in just 24 Hours and read it as soon as you can.
P.S. I also recommend the book “It’s called a break-up because it’s broken” by Greg Behrendt – he’s my favourite author so far.
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I’m friends with benefits with someone and ikinda fell for him along the way. but i know it isnt a good idea to fall for him because i know he’ll hurt me. But i cant talk to anyone about it because we decidedd to keep it a secret and he’s showing no interest and I’m trying to give it some time but i cant get him off my mind. Everything i do or hear, it’s about him. i just need help!
i also want to forget someone bt i cant do it, from 2 year i dont see him even dont talk with him, but for one moment also i cant forget him, hi always stay in my mind, his face, his way to talk , his all words i cant forget, i dont know what to do
I like this blog, and I really want to forget about this guy, I just don’t know how to do that, because I see him Mondays and Tuesdays, I can’t avoid him, he talks to me when he sees me, I just want to forget about him and still keep a professional relationship with him. How can I stop texting him sometimes, and how can I try not to text him back or take his calls. ???
Hmm it appears like your site ate my first comment (it was super long) so I guess I’ll just sum it up what I had written and say, I’m thoroughly enjoying your blog. I too am an aspiring blog blogger but I’m still new to the whole thing. Do you have any helpful hints for novice blog writers? I’d really appreciate it.
I guess there is no way than to accept the fact that she does not like me at all. Maybe she just enjoyed the flirting but nothing more than that. It is purely myself that I fall into the love trap. And yet, despite the way she treated me, I still having hope that someday she will contact me again, some day my wish will come true, some day she is mine. I know I am just too stupid to keep hoping and wishing and even think that someday she will be mine.
I should start to tell myself to accept the fact that my feeling for this girl, will never be return!
Hmmm what is happening to me now is more than hell. The woman i love from all my heart and she is the one who gives me happiness. And she the first love ever in my life. We got a little misunderstanding and i went to her to say am sorry. but when to her house her mom said she is gone for camping so i quickly pack my things to go meet her there. but whn i get there her Pastor said am not the right guy for her. am really sick now i dont knw what to do.. and who to talk to now… pls what can i do? help me … till when will i get someone to love.
Gosh! I realy dnt knw wat to say nor whre to start. . .my ex bf, left me wth a text msg teling me it is over, and i dnt even knw the reasn y he left me. Its painful coz no one andastands, no one, i have no frnd who get the pain, help
sometimes simply writing or posting a blog about it helps you A LOT but never say it to yourself always pretend or have someone listning
i keep trying to find a perfect site to help me and tell me wa i shud do to forget some1 i really love .. but its hard cuz what ur sayn may seem easy to its so hard to do .. every night i sit and cry and think abt him .. wondering if he thinks abt me to .. but i dont think he does cuz he has a new girlfriend.
story goes i was goin ou with this guy for half a yr and we broke because he kept cheating on me and then the feelings i had for him changed and i just didn feel so into him like before so i left him. he asked me to get back wit him to many times he said he changed but i knew deep down it was a lie … time went by i moved on nd didn keep in contact with him cus i felt it wud be better for both of us .. bu 4 months ago we got back talkin and 1 thing led to another and we had sex and since then all my feeling towards him have came back and worst of all is that he has a girlfriend now. but i want him bk i tried to many things like telling him i stil love him
but it seems da he might like the new girl few weeks ago we had sex again i knew it was wrong but i like being with him ( and part of me tot it wud get him bk) i really do want to forget him because i noticed he might of forgotten me. he was my first love and u just cant forget them … my first everything …. can some1 PLEASE HELP ME … I JUS NEED SOME1 TO TALK TO ND HELP ME THROUGH THIS