Author: Sally Webb
This is one article I wrote that has a little to do with the actual dating, but a lot to do with the foundation of dating. I have been asked by a few people “How to forget someone you still really like”, most of the time the question relates to the ex whom they still have a clear picture of in their mind, or the person who they’ve started dating (or are dating) who pretty much has just left them for any reason (somebody else, things not working out, and the worst of all: just gone missing without a trace – AWOL).
I also realise that many times when this question is asked, the answer you are hoping for is really beyond the normal “get busy, take time out, let time heals it etc”. Most people who ask this question are feeling some kind of emotional pain rooted somewhere in their heart or mind that they can’t concentrate on any task given to them. Normally this pain happens on the first few hours they ‘get dumped’ or ‘felt like they’ve lost someone’, or whom they finally got the courage to ‘leave’.
Of course, I must tell you that there is no ‘super quick fix’ that will completely take away the hurt right now, despite I always look for one whenever I feel hurt by people close to me (romantic or not). In fact, there is no such thing as the quick ‘how to forget someone you still really like or love’, because it is impossible to forget something that has happened in the past (whether it is a minute ago, weeks or months ago).
But what you can do though, is to get over the painful hurt feeling as quickly as possible so that you can survive the hurt, able to concentrate on your days, and most importantly move on with your life whether you want to get back to dating scene with a more ‘ready’ mind, or just move on with your life without feeling the hurt anymore.
So here are some things that you can do:
1. Accept the fact that you are hurt, and accept that there is no quick fix, that there is a process to forget someone.
Yes this is the easiest thing to do that you have to start accepting that there is nothing you can do to make the hurt go away right this second. Especially, if you feel like you don’t have anyone else to talk to because the person you count on is really the person who hurts you.
2. Do something physical ON YOUR OWN
When I said ‘on your own’, I meant ‘on your own’. There is no need to pretend you can forget things in your mind by talking to others. You need a ‘me time’ right now or in the next 24 hours. Of course, you will feel so bad that you are taking it in for yourself, but trust me it will numb your hurt painful emotion quicker. So do something physical such as jogging while listening to inspirational music, lock yourself in your room and sleep for the next six hours, playing music instrument, singing karaoke as loud as you can, bowling on your own, shooting range (if time and place permits), shooting basketball or just anything physical on your own – you get the idea. (In fact, I knew a lady who did bungee jumping ten times in a row just to forget someone she just broke up with.)
3. Writing a blog or a diary – both online and offline
If reading articles such as this one will take up some of your mind space, writing blog entries or diary entries will actually make it even better. It is one of the most effective and quickest method on how to forget someone, or forget the hurt you get from that someone. Write exactly how you feel, write about how you survive this whole thing. Before you know it, your strong urge earlier of wanting to call that person right at that moment will slowly subside. You will soon feel calmer and able to function a little bit more.
4. Beyond this, time will heal
Yes, it’s time for me to mention that the best thing on how to forget someone you like is still to give it time. However, it helps if you stop focusing on contacting them in the meantime. In fact, try to minimise contact (no contact is even better) so that you can move on with your life quicker.
Also, I came across this information on the web the other day, How to Forget Your Ex in just 24 Hours, VERY interesting. Check it out for yourself!
In fact, reading it alone helped me go through the first few crucial hours of trying to move on. Get How to Forget Your Ex in just 24 Hours and read it as soon as you can.
P.S. I also recommend the book “It’s called a break-up because it’s broken” by Greg Behrendt – he’s my favourite author so far.
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i was going out with him, for 2 years, we planned everything, we decided to get married and have kids, but this summer we broke up, i can’t forget him, i want to be with him, but i can’t , because of my family….i love him and miss him very much!!! what should i do?
Actually i had an Love in my life with her i had spend 4 most beautiful years of my life i just Love her allot but just because of some personal problems in her family she need to break up with me…
We both love each other today also and even need each other but just her mom is messing our both life i don’t know what to do and now we both r suffering from this break up…..
I really miss her like hell but just missing does not make me relief….
i m too tense this days and messed up with this and can’t be able to take her out of my head….
What should i do?????
manish, u didnt said tht u hav kids or notin our life we can easyly remember any person but it is too difficult to forget if it is wife or husban uts really hell any way if u interest send ur personal problem to my mail ur wife really lucky to get a husband like u my mail swarnakamalam5@gmail.com
I’m trying to get over an old girlfriend who came back into my life after 6 years. We started talking again after a mutual friend of ours who brought us into each others lives twice had passed away.
We talked for a year before I decided to see her. I really didn’t want to see her, I was afraid all of the old feelings would awaken for her and I would go through all of the pain I did when we parted ways the last time.
But after she kept saying how much she missed me and kept asking me out on dates which I declined, I finally, reluctantly gave in.
On the very first night we saw each other after 6 years she ran into another old boyfriend, I could tell she liked him still.
I’ve seen her twice since that night and have learned that she is seeing him. Now I sit here feeling so stupid, still in love and she is moving on with someone else. It hurts after spending a couple of weekends with her and her daughter and enjoying my time with them and seeing a kinder side of her. This really sucks.
I guess all I can do is think of all the negatives about her to try and squash all of these old feelings that have flooded back into my brain. I mean come on dude, she is an alcoholic, she only works 2-3 times a week. She uses men to get things. She is dishonest. She sleeps around. She disrespected me.
There do I feel better….nope. Damn this sucks.
ITS OBVIOUSLY A TREMENDOUS THOUGHT WHICH COULD BE HELP ME A LOT.
I’M INDEED VERY THANKS FULL TO AUTHOR.
I’m friends with benefits with someone and ikinda fell for him along the way. but i know it isnt a good idea to fall for him because i know he’ll hurt me. But i cant talk to anyone about it because we decidedd to keep it a secret and he’s showing no interest and I’m trying to give it some time but i cant get him off my mind. Everything i do or hear, it’s about him. i just need help!
i also want to forget someone bt i cant do it, from 2 year i dont see him even dont talk with him, but for one moment also i cant forget him, hi always stay in my mind, his face, his way to talk , his all words i cant forget, i dont know what to do
I like this blog, and I really want to forget about this guy, I just don’t know how to do that, because I see him Mondays and Tuesdays, I can’t avoid him, he talks to me when he sees me, I just want to forget about him and still keep a professional relationship with him. How can I stop texting him sometimes, and how can I try not to text him back or take his calls. ???
Hmm it appears like your site ate my first comment (it was super long) so I guess I’ll just sum it up what I had written and say, I’m thoroughly enjoying your blog. I too am an aspiring blog blogger but I’m still new to the whole thing. Do you have any helpful hints for novice blog writers? I’d really appreciate it.